UNDULATE YOUR WAY TO SATISFYING SEX

Stella brings you a change of pace:) Anita Boser is a Hellerworker. She is both licensed and gifted! I met her on my quest to find pain free peace for the structural stresses writers, and most people who use their bodies a lot, are forever fighting.

Now Anita has a new book out, which I recommend to each of you, and, just for us, she has written the following blog article.

Undulate Your Way to Exciting, Satisfying Sex

By Anita Boser

Your uncontrolled pleasure is the aim of any mature lover. He wants to take you to the place where you can really let go, lose all pretense and structure, and totally enjoy what he can give you. Some days he can figure out how to do all this on his own; other times he needs help. If you’re like me, having to spell it out is the opposite of letting go—so how do we maintain intimacy and show our lovers what we want without giving instructions like a teacher?

Let me show you a technique that has multiple applications for adding excitement and satisfaction to your lovemaking. It’s called undulation, a movement that flows from one part of the body to another. This sophisticated, sensual movement will make your body more open to intimacy and pleasure—and you can also use it to improve your partner’s ability to follow your non-verbal cues.

First, try a simple undulation on your own. In a seated position, move your upper body, sway to the left and right. Notice what parts of your spine move easily and which are stiff. Breathe. Bring movement to the stiff places so they will awaken and become more alive. Keep everything soft and easy. Try to use your whole spine down to your tailbone. Add motion forward and back and some small twists, too. Notice how sensual you become when you’re aware of and use more of your body.

Now you get to teach this—physically—to your lover. Sit back to back and ask him to notice your body, your breath, and where your bodies touch. Direct him to maintain contact and follow your movements as you playfully lead through slow sways, twists, turns, and waves being mindful of his abilities to move.

Turn around so that your back is cradled by his front. Again lead him, but this time initiate as much movement as possible from your pelvis and let it flow up your spine and back down to what will become a focal point of sensation for you both. Keep your movements gentle and avoid the temptation to get amped up to quickly.

Suggest that he lead. If he’s uncomfortable, assure him that it doesn't have to be choreographed or suave, but that you’d like it to remain soothing. More than likely, you've helped him get in touch with his sensuality and loosened his spine enough that his body can continue the flow you started.

Take this from sitting to lying down, then changing to different positions, and trading off who directs and who follows. Notice how few verbal cues are necessary to stay connected with this technique. You’ll also find that by increasing your sensuality and ability to move—and his—he’ll be better able to reach those special places inside you so you can totally let go.

Anita Boser is author of Relieve Stiffness and Feel Young Again with Undulation a book that includes 52 gentle exercises to improve flexibility and strength around the spine. www.undulationexercise.com.